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A pregnant woman called our
agency one evening at 11:30pm.
She had found our website on the
Internet and
was calling to schedule her
first abortion recovery counseling appointment.
Oddly enough, she had not yet
terminated her pregnancy.
She was scheduled for an abortion
the next day!
We got goose bumps when she
said....
“I know I’m going to need
some help. After the
procedure tomorrow, I’ll be one of ‘those
people!’”
Just WHO
are those people?
Those
people are the women, men, siblings, grandparents, and
extended family who have chosen an abortion in the past, or been
associated with someone who has. Those people are
your neighbors down the street, your pastor or his wife, your
nephew's teacher, or your son's coach. Those people
are your daughter's best friend, your work-out buddy at the gym,
your grandmother or friend from school. You're eating lunch with
those people at work, studying the Bible with them
at church, watching them on TV, listening to them on a CD, or seeing
them run for public office.
Those
people are individuals who chose abortion when it was
legal, or when it was illegal. Either way, those
people were deceived into thinking it was the ONLY way out
of an unplanned or medically challenged pregnancy. And then
realizing, that it was too late! Those people ARE
EVERYWHERE!
And they are suffering in silence around the world! WHY? Because they are too ashamed
and too frightened that they will be classified as "those
people" when they ask or search for
help.
When
those people have emotional, physical or spiritual
complication we usually don't know how to reach out to them as a
society, church or even as a family. After all, it was their choice,
right? Legal abortion
is safe and supposedly a simple solution. Unfortunately,
those people, who made that "poor choice," don't
often know what to do themselves when their world seems to be
crashing down around them.
And their ONE abortion, through a rippling effect, touches
20, 30 or even 40 people throughout their lifetime. Some of those
effected may choose to do nothing, stuck in denial for years! Others may take a courageous
step and seek outside help!
If more counselors and therapists would acknowledge a past
abortion, the “real root” of those peoples’ anger, depression,
addiction or eating disorder might be addressed empathetically!
So, how and what
do we do with those people?
How do we treat them?
Do we grant them compassion or scold them with contempt? So we lash out in
anger? Or reach out in
love? Do we grieve with
them differently than a family who mourns a child lost to
miscarriage or stillbirth? Hummmm, something we should think
about....
When
those people are finally released from shame, guilt
and grief ... lives and souls change! Physical, emotional and
spiritual complications are often resolved. When those people can stand
up and be “silent no more” about the ramifications of their choice
... other children are saved and families and marriages are
healed. All it takes is
one willing heart to make it OK for one of those
people to share their story. All it takes is for one of
those people to be accepted, unconditionally and
without judgment.
Let's make it easier and more acceptable
for those people to get the
healing they need.
Let's make it safe to talk with them at school, at church, at
work, at home and even within our families. Let’s add "pregnancy
termination" to our counseling, life coach or church intake
forms. After all, if generations can share the truth, then maybe,
just maybe, the cycle of abortion will cease. Open up your arms to
accepting those people who
just might need that one willing heart.
If you are one
of “those people”, or know someone who is,
we can help you! If you are a counselor and
need further information, or are interested in partnering with
Abortion Recovery Counseling, we'd be thankful for your
involvement. We appreciate prayers, volunteers and of course,
financial support. Our goal is for those people to find personal
peace for their heart, mind, soul and spirit.
What can you do to help?
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